If you were to see a manly man would you recognize him? Do you think it is the bravado, the muscular pecks, the ‘it’ factor, the charming smile, the Armani suit that makes a manly man? Do you think it is the Ryan Seacrest charm, Denzel Washington sex appeal, or the Brad Pitt looks?
NSB News.net photo by Henry Frederick. Kerry-Anne-Purkiss with her manlly man, her husband, Wayne, at the recent Holiday Charity Ball at the Brannon Center in New Smyrna Beach.
What strikes me as odd is the uncommitted position some men would portray towards their children, wife, and household and still consider themselves manly men.
The quickness in which they would leave behind a commitment made and take the ‘manly’ way out. The voice and choices of those men speak volumes with scores of broken homes and fatherless children. Their unwillingness to be honorable, full of respect, and submissive to their family name challenges the very intellect of common sense.
Yet, there are men out there that are exemplify a true manly man.
Would you agree a manly man is honorable, respectful, trustworthy, and submissive to their family duties? They tend to be more silent and invisible than most men. They lie quietly in the background doing what they were made to do: Work, protect, provide, and love.
Those men are never appreciated, celebrated, or honored for their quiet committal. They are never highlighted in the RSS news feed, on facebook, or have a special place on myspace. They are never out in the open getting awards for the priceless steadfastness and allegiance they are as family men.
Instead they are debased and counted as chauvinist for being men and standing for traditional values. When will we hear and appreciate their silence. I must admit I am old school and still believe that the man is the head of the house. Although, I am a very outspoken woman always full of ideas, plans, and my very own opinion; I still believe my man’s word is law.
As ancient as that sounds, there is truth and freedom in it.
I never was one for the pro-lib movement, which appears to demean a man while putting women at risk of being lonely. I want a manly man: A man who is not afraid to say no to seeing a chick flick…yet, snuggle on the couch watching Battlestar Galactica. A man who enjoys an action flick and have a man cave…yet, not afraid to invite me in and share a drink for two A man who can appreciate a sporting event without having to call his wife to tell her what he bought with the card...yet, agrees to a budget without controlling the money or being controlled A man who can think for himself by ordering his own meal…yet, appreciates his wife ordering a meal for two.
When will the real men stand up. I want to hear their silence. Whenever I watch television, I keep seeing these mansy-pansy men who wear make up, use soap salts in the shower, get manicures and pedicures with nail polish, shave their legs (and they are not into swimming, surfing or biking), and wear hip huggers… and have the nerve to be highlighted as men my son should look up to.
Where are all the MEN?! The hunting, grunting, working, protecting, providing, and committed to family…man.
Although, it may appear 20th-century thinking and put women in the dark ages, it actually gives men power and more levels of esteem when they know they can be themselves and not be judged or condemned for it. It gives men the liberty to be fully submissive to their commitment as a husband and father. They are the true manly men.
The men I am sure real women would be proud to be submissive too. My husband is such a man: He doesn’t cry…yet show emotions through loving hugs, warm smiles, and kisses on the cheek, in public too.
He expects me to recognize his manhood...yet, do laundry, changes diapers, and go midnight ice cream hunting. He wants his dinner when he gets home, yet he cleans the table, sets the table, and makes the kool aid. Sex is not optional…yet, spoons! Amen…Ladies! Watches all the games (on TV, the Internet, the phone)…yet, explains all the rules, plays, and listens to idle chatter during the flag challenge. He enjoys hangin’ with the boys…yet, loves the family outings with pictures. He takes them all! He mows the lawn and tinkers with tools… yet, does the dishes, and sweeps the floor.
Who doesn’t want a manly man like that?! Then you are lonely, sad, and simply won’t admit it. I have one and I would love to teach you how to keep one. My husband of 16 years is, in the words of the wise LIL Wayne, “he’s the bomb, like tic… tic…”! He is that manly man.
He is committed, honest, trustworthy, and a Cosby kind of man. Where are all the manly men?! They are the ones you passed looking at the pecks, bravado, the ‘it’ factor, sex appeal, Armani suit, sports car, and the smooth talk. Good luck this year…finding a manly man! And for all the manly men out there: I salute you!
Be blessed. Happy New Year.